I was scheduled to have a c-section on Monday March 20th. When Dr. Tran told me I was going to have to have a c-section, I was devastated; however, I eventually came to like the idea of having a “scheduled” birth. Greg and I still had so much to do before Andie’s arrival – finish her nursery, get the car seat bases and car seat in the cars, pack our hospital bags, write thank you notes, and I was planning to work up until the Friday before, so knowing when she would be making her big debut into the world – Monday, March 20th, at exactly 7:30 am – I was looking forward to embracing the time Greg and I had left just the two of us and finishing the to-do list stress free. I mean, Dr. Tran did say the chances of me going into labor with a breech baby on my own were very unlikely.
March 14th was a normal Tuesday, for the most part. It was spring break week so a few people at work had taken time off and things were pretty slow around the office. I texted Jody, a friend and co-worker, first thing that morning and told her I was going to get some purchasing done for the office and I would meet them all at Red Robin around 12:30 pm for our celebratory spring break staff lunch. I didn’t feel bad that morning, just tired, so I laid in bed a little longer than usual and lingered while getting ready. While at Walmart, I remember an old man making a comment to me like “you’re about to pop,” and at lunch, my co-workers were shocked that I still hadn’t packed my hospital bag (as was my mom when I called her on my way to Walmart) and I remember another co-worker saying something along the lines of, “I keep thinking any second you’re going to scream, ‘My water broke!'” I just kept thinking to myself, “Does no one understand what a scheduled c-section on Monday, March 20th, at exactly 7:30 am means?”
As usual, I got home before Greg that day. I laid down and rested until he got home and then we spent some time in the backyard playing ball with Kliff. For dinner, we ate fish and rice on the couch while watching a new episode of The Middle. And then I got a sudden burst of energy and announced I was going to pack my hospital bag! (You’re welcome, Mom.) We got in bed around 10:00 pm.
It was normal for Andie to get active at bedtime but this night she was especially active. I tossed. I turned. I sat up. I laid back down. I got up and paced back and forth. Greg kept telling me to try to be still and relax and maybe that would help her settle down. No. I wasn’t in pain just extremely uncomfortable. Around midnight, I got up to go to the bathroom. Without going into too much detail, a mucus plug is a real thing. I walked out of the bathroom, turned on the lamp, and told Greg I thought we should call the doctor. He woke up so fast (haha)! The on-call doctor told us to go to L&D just to be safe. I called my parents and Greg called his just to let them all know what was going on. Greg packed his bag and got ready in record-breaking time while I brushed my teeth, changed clothes, and washed my face in slow motion. On the way to the hospital, Greg just kept saying, “It’s game time,” over and over but I truly thought it was a false alarm and we’d be back home and back in our own bed in a couple of hours. Thank goodness I packed my bag.
When we got to the hospital, we got checked in and I got changed into one of those godawful gowns. The nurse hooked me up to the machines, and as uncomfortable as I was, I felt myself relax when I heard Andie’s heartbeat loud and clear. Then the nurse said, “Hmmm. Are you feeling those contractions?” Excuse me. What. “You’re having contractions.” She checked me, said I was dilated to a 3, and then said she was going to call Dr. Tran. That’s when I remembered Dr. Tran was on vacation. Trying to stay calm, I said, “You can’t call him. He’s out-of-town.” To which she replied, “Honey, he’s still your doctor. He’s going to have to tell us what we need to do.” She stepped out and I heard her say, “I have Kadie Henderson here. She’s having contractions, dilated to a 3, and I can feel a foot.” Then she stepped back in and said, “You will have a baby in about 45 minutes.”
The next half hour was a blur. Greg’s parents were in the waiting room so he went to let them know what was going on. I called my mom to tell her and my dad the unexpected news, and we both cried because they were still an hour and a half away. I’ve never wanted to hug my mom as badly as I did in that moment. We met with the anesthesiologist, signed some papers, met with the OR nurse, signed some more papers, then Dr. Tran walked into the room in his pajamas, and as badly as I wanted to hug my mom I wanted to hug him even more. By the grace of God, him and his family decided last-minute to have a stay-cation. Y’all. The bond between a pregnant woman and her obstetrician is a special one. Am I right? After we met with Dr. Tran for a minute everyone gave Greg and I a minute alone, and that’s when I went into full freak out mode. I started crying, shaking uncontrollably, and I asked Greg, in all seriousness, if I could sleep for a couple of hours before “game time.”
For those of you who have had a c-section, you know your spouse (or whomever you want with you) is not allowed to go back with you while they’re getting you ready and everything else set up for surgery. A friend of mine had told me this a month or so before, so I had time to emotionally and mentally prepare; however, it didn’t make it any easier. (Now that it’s all said and done, I actually think it was harder for Greg than it was for me. Poor guy thought we forgot about him.) When they got me in the operating room, they had me sit up on the operating table. The OR nurse told me to “kiss my belly” and then she literally laid on top of me to help me get in the perfect position to get my spinal. After that, they helped me lie down and I quickly lost all feeling from right below my chest down. Two things about a c-section – 1. It’s the weirdest feeling having surgery while awake; and 2. You can still feel everything (SO. MUCH. PRESSURE.), you just can’t feel pain. Once they got everything set up and were ready to get started, Greg was able to come in and be with me. Oh, and one other thing about a c-section – If you think you love your obstetrician, you will love your anesthesiologist even more. Mine gave me a play-by-play, and after Greg left the operating room to be with Andie, he was the one that kept me company and helped keep me calm. The Christian music filling the room didn’t hurt either. Thank you, Dr. Tran.
I know it didn’t take long for Dr. Tran to deliver Andie but it felt like an eternity. Because she was breech, her head was stuck in my ribs so it did take him a little longer than normal to get her out. They think maybe that’s why I was feeling her movements more than the contractions, because she was feeling the contractions and trying so hard to get turned into the right position. Poor baby. Because of this, she was in some distress when they got her out, and she didn’t cry immediately. After I heard Dr. Tran say, “She’s out,” I think I asked at least three times, “Is she going to cry,” before she ever did. (It felt like forever. Greg swears it wasn’t.) But when she did cry, I was certain I had never heard anything so beautiful. When she cries now, I remind myself of how badly I wanted to hear her cry then. They announced her time of birth as 2:31 am and then everyone sang Happy Birthday, which was the cutest thing. Greg went to the other side of the room with the nurse to watch her get cleaned up, and I’ll never forget how proud and smitten he was when he walked back over to me. “How is she,” I asked. “She’s perfect. And she squeezed my finger,” he said. The nurse finally brought her over to me and I just remember saying, “She’s so pretty” over and over and over. It’s an experience I’ll never forget.
Greg went with the nurse and Andie to the recovery room, and I joined them about twenty minutes later. Her and I did skin to skin, and those two to three hours that we got to spend together, in the quiet, just the three of us were truly magical. A word of advice to all of you mom-to-be’s reading this, you will be so excited to introduce your baby to your family and friends but DO NOT rush that time you get with just your husband and your baby. It’s truly such a special time that you’ll never be able to get back so take all the time you need. And don’t you dare feel guilty about it. Cherish it. Embrace it. Soak it all in. Take pictures. This is the moment you’ve been waiting nine whole months for. You did it, Mama! Hold your baby, kiss your husband, and enjoy the fact that time truly does stand still in this moment, because when this moment passes, time will start passing by way to quickly.
I’m so thankful that Greg and I went from having a scheduled c-section to having an unexpected birth story I wish I could relive again and again. March 15, 2017, the day I became “Mama,” was truly the best, most life-changing day of my life. <3
Photography by: Jessica Price
Have you tried Stitch Fix yet? If not, it’s pretty amazing, or at least it can be – if you make the effort to really connect with your personal stylist(s). It can also be quite addicting. A box full of clothes, shoes, and accessories that magically appears on your front porch once a month (or however often you want it to)? Yes, please! Okay, maybe it doesn’t “magically” appear (there’s like payments and stuff), but for your mom it could! Which is what I want to talk about today – two more Mother’s Day gift ideas with Stitch Fix. (For more information about Stitch Fix, see the FAQ here.)
One || Give a Gift Card
One || Robe (2 for $60)
This robe looks SO soft. And 2 for $60?! Grab one for your mom and mother-in-law! Not married? Grab one for your mom and yourself!
Two || Slippers
Just looking at these make me happy! Because what’s not to love about a pair of leopard slippers? That I’m pretty sure can pass as an actual pair of shoes. I’m thinking for a long day at the office, while traveling… Every mom needs a pair of these in her life!
Three || Candle
These are my all time favorite candles. And what mom doesn’t like to keep a good scented candle burning to keep her home smelling nice?
Four || Necklace
As a new mom, I have all the heart eyes for this necklace. It’s a bit pricey, but I think it would make such a special gift. I would love to have one with Andie’s name.
Five || Candy
Champagne flavored gummy bears…enough said.
I own the MOM one and would love to add the other one to my ILY tee collection. They can easily be worn with shorts, leggings, or skinny jeans. And they are the softest. Any stylish, trendy mom will love these tees!
Seven || Keyring
Is your mom constantly losing her keys in the bottom of her bag? Problem solved! Now she can wear them on her wrist. I received one of these after I had Andie, and I love it. It’s so easy to throw on your wrist if you’re just running into a store real quick or going for a walk around the neighborhood. I’m also constantly tossing mine into the diaper bag before leaving the house, and if it does make its way to the bottom it’s super easy to find.
Is your mom a coffee drinker? If so, you can’t go wrong with a cute mug. I’ve linked two – one (a set) for the seasoned moms and one for the new moms (which I personally NEED, because my coffee is constantly finding its way to the microwave and getting forgotten these days).
Nine || Sandals
When in doubt, Tory Burch is always a good idea. And you simply can’t go wrong with the classic Miller Sandal. I personally prefer the patent leather over the regular leather.
Ten || Book
Celebrate your mom with a book. This one is great!
What do you usually treat your mom with on Mother’s Day? Leave a comment and let me know! <3
Andie turned ONE MONTH old on Saturday (April 15th), and I can’t believe how fast time is flying by. How are you already a month old, sweet girl?! Even though it’s only been a month, I can’t remember life without her. I’ve come to realize that one can’t fully understand motherhood until one becomes a mother. Motherhood has changed me. It feels good and it hurts all at once. It is challenging but so fulfilling. It is your heart living on the outside of your body, and it is both wonderful and terrifying. It has a way of bringing you to your knees, because the love you’re experiencing is so overwhelming all you can do is pray. You will become extremely protective and oh so selfless. However, you’ll want to be selfish with your time because time feels like your worst enemy. Motherhood is sweat and tears (so many tears). It is diaper changes and feedings. It is days running into nights and nights running into days. It is lack of sleep, too much coffee, and not near enough showers. It is looking at your husband and missing the way things used to be. It is also watching your husband be a daddy and knowing you would never go back to the way things used to be if you could. Motherhood gives life a whole new meaning. Your appreciation and love for your husband will multiply times a billion. You will begin to dream new dreams. Your priorities will change. When the night finally gets quiet (you’re never quite sure how long the quiet will last) and you’re thanking God for helping you get through another day, you’ll know it’s all worth it – the good days/nights and the bad days/nights, the fears you’re already having about the future, all of it – because it forces you to depend on and trust God in a way you never have before, and you’ll find comfort in knowing His love for His child far outweighs yours.
Andie’s Size: Andie’s birth weight and length (on March 15th) was 6 pounds 7 ounces and 19 inches long. At her first doctor’s appointment (on April 3rd), she weighed exactly 7 pounds and was 19.75 inches long. My doctor kept telling Greg and I that she was going to be a “big baby” and weigh over 8 pounds…nope! She’s tiny. Even newborn size clothing swallowed her at first, but she’s finally starting to grow into them. We had bought a lot of 0-3 month clothing that is still just way to big for her, so we did have to do some shopping for more newborn sized things after she was born. Carters brand newborn size clothing and Pampers newborn diapers both fit her perfectly right now. I think she is going to look just like her daddy and be built just like her mama.
Andie’s Sleep: It took us a couple of weeks to start having consistent “good” nights, but she’s become a pretty great sleeper. (I will talk more about our schedule below.) She likes being held to sleep, and then once she gets good asleep I put her in her rock ‘n play that’s by the bed, which is what she’s sleeping in right now. Occasionally, she will wake up before feeding time, but she also self-soothes pretty well and will put herself back to sleep most of the time. In the beginning, I picked her up if I heard the faintest whimper… Oh, how far we’ve come! Before I had her, I was “that mom-to-be” that swore I’d have her in her crib on night one, but that didn’t happen. And honestly, once I had her in my arms, I didn’t want it to. I would like to have her sleeping in her own crib/room by month three, but right now I’m enjoying falling asleep to her sweet breaths and waking up to her soft whimpers and sometimes loud screams.
Andie’s Schedule: I will start with her 8:00 pm feeding. *Sometimes these times will change because we’ll feed on demand a little early or because she’s starting to sleep a little longer in the night.
At 8:00 pm, Daddy will feed her, and then we will try to put her down “for the night.” Once we get her to sleep, I like to try and put her down in the bedroom in her rock ‘n play, but I’ll admit that doesn’t always happen. A lot of times after this feeding, we’ll put her down in between us on the couch in her boppy lounger while we eat dinner and watch our shows. We feed her again at 11:00 pm, and a lot of times she won’t stay asleep until then anyway. Greg and I are usually in bed by 10:00 pm, so if she has woken up, I’ll hold her to sleep in the bed and then put her down until she wakes up for her next feeding. This doesn’t give me much time to sleep, so I’ll usually stay awake and read or watch tv.
At 11:00 pm, I’ll feed her and put her right back down. We are usually up for about 30 minutes, so I can finally go to sleep around 11:30 pm. I don’t change her diaper at this time unless she is poopy. At first, Greg and I were changing her diaper before every feeding at night, and it was waking her up way to much. I did some research and found that it’s okay to only change her at night if her diaper is leaking or if she’s poopy.
At 2:00 am, I’ll feed her and put her right back down. Again, we are usually up for about 30 minutes, and I only change her diaper at this time if it is leaking or if she’s poopy.
At 5:00 am, I’ll change her diaper and then feed her. Greg is usually getting up for the day at this time, which is nice because we can talk a little and he can see her before leaving the house to go workout and go to work. She usually stays awake for a hour to a hour and a half at this time, so I’ll turn the coffee pot on and turn the news on in the bedroom. She is also usually very happy at this time, so I take in all of her sweet smiles and talk to her and sing to her until she goes back to sleep. If I’m exhausted, I’ll go back to sleep too, but if I feel rested, I’ll pour a cup of coffee, empty and load the dishwasher, start laundry, and then get back in bed and do my devotional.
At 8:00 am, I’ll feed her and put her right back down. At this time, she is usually up for 30 minutes or less and will go back down until 11:00 am. I only change her diaper at this time if it’s leaking or if she’s poopy. On my exhausted days, I’ll continue to sleep too, but if it’s a day I’ve gotten up then I will try to shower and get ready, or if I’ve showered the night before, I will stay in bed with my coffee and watch Good Morning America while reading blogs, or writing, or just getting stuff done that I need to do.
At 11:00 am, I’ll feed her, and then we’re both up for the day. I’ll change her diaper and change her out of her pajamas into her clothes for the day. After I change her, we (including Kliff) will sit in her rocking chair and I’ll read them both a Jesus story out of her bible. Greg usually comes home for lunch around 11:30 am, so he usually gets home to see her before I put her down for a nap.
At 2:00 pm, I’ll feed her and then change her. After that, she’ll spend some time on her play mat or in her mamaroo. I like to stimulate her at this time because she will get worn out and put herself to sleep either on her play mat or in her mamaroo. If she falls asleep on her play mat, I will move her to her rock ‘n play or her boppy lounger, but if she falls asleep in her mamaroo I’ll leave her there to nap.
At 5:00 pm, I’ll feed her, or if Greg has gotten home early he’ll feed her, and then one of us will change her. At this time, her and her daddy will have bonding time so I can finish laundry, cook dinner, etc. Before her 8:00 pm feeding, we’ll change her diaper and change her into her pajamas. When we put her in her pajamas, we also wrap her in a blanket. When I change her out of her pajamas during the day, I take the blanket away. This way, she knows blanket is associated with night and no blanket is associated with day. She also has bath time twice a week, so on nights that we give her a bath we’ll do it before her 8:00 pm feeding. Since she only bathes twice a week, I use baby face wipes daily when I change her out of her pajamas to wash her face and neck. I also use baby aquaphor on her diaper area to protect her skin from getting diaper rash. I’ll also use the baby aquaphor on her dry skin spots. I don’t use lotion on her.
*I’ll change her diaper at other times during the day if she needs a diaper change.
*After she wakes up for the day, nap times are hit or miss. Sometimes she’ll nap for 3 hours, and sometimes she’ll nap for 15 – 30 minutes. On the days that don’t stick to the schedule, we just go with the flow.
*Again, her feeding times change a lot because we’ll sometimes feed her on demand a little early or she’ll sleep for longer than 3 hours at a time during the night or go over her feeding time when she’s napping. Sometimes she sleeps for 4-5 hours at a time. Our pediatrician informed us at our first appointment that she will let us know when she’s hungry. Since she is starting to sleep longer periods of time during the night and sometimes napping through her feeding times during the day, we will probably increase her ounces of formula soon. (I will talk more about that below.)
Breastfeeding vs. Formula Feeding: Greg and I decided pretty early on in my pregnancy that we wanted to formula feed her from the beginning. Of course, I heard so many different opinions on this topic, but after talking to our pediatrician about it I knew we had made the best decision for us. We both agreed that we wanted to know exactly how much she was getting during feedings. I also wanted him to be able to feed her for bonding. I have not regretted our decision at all. The hospital started her on Similac Pro-Advance Ready to Feed in the 2 ounce bottles. She started at less than 2 ounces and she is now taking 3 ounces at each feeding. (We will probably start increasing that to 4 ounces soon as she starts sleeping for longer periods of time at night.) After her first doctor’s appointment, we tried changing her to the Similac Pro-Advance Powder, but that did not go over well. She was only making it about a hour before she would get hungry again, and the only thing I could think was that since it is mixed with water she wasn’t getting as full. Currently, we are using the Similac Pro-Advance Ready to Feed in the 1 quart bottles and using a bottle warmer since it has to be refrigerated.
Andie’s Developmental Milestones: She has been pretty strong since she was born. The night she was born, when the nurse put her on my chest for skin to skin time, she was able to raise her head. Obviously she wasn’t able to hold it up, but I was pretty impressed that she was already able to do that. Now, she is able to raise her head for short periods of time and look up at you and look around with some control. She has also started tracking things with her eyes and is making eye contact, which I absolutely adore. About two days before her one month birthday, she started smiling, which I also absolutely adore.
Andie is looking forward to:
^real life (haha) #outtake
Greg and I’s one year wedding anniversary was yesterday (April 9th), so we spent the weekend spending quality time together and reminiscing on our first year of marriage.
We’ve always enjoyed staying in on Friday nights for date nights at home, and last Friday night was no different. We ordered pizza, got comfy on the couch (with Andie and Kliff in the middle), and caught up on one of our favorite shows (#scandal). I’m thankful I found someone who loves staying in and watching tv as much as I do. (Babe, here’s to many more date nights on the couch in our loosies. #myhappyplace)
Andie spoiled us on Saturday and slept until 11:00 am. And then Greg spoiled me – him and Andie had a father/daughter day at home and let me get out of the house for awhile. I spent over a hour in Target, got a pedicure and a manicure, and shopped for Andie at Carters. Right now, Carters newborn is the only brand/size that fits our little seven pounder. When I got home, they continued to spoil me by letting me take a looong shower and get ready (makeup included). The entire day was much needed. After Andie was born, we agreed we weren’t going to take her out to public places until after her first round of vaccines, which she’ll get at her two month appointment, so this mama has been struggling a little bit with cabin fever. While I was getting ready, Greg opened a bottle of Bello cabernet sauvignon, one of the bottles we brought back from Napa on our honeymoon. I made him promise he wouldn’t open any of our best bottles while I was pregnant, so it made it that much more special. After we both finished getting ready, we dropped Andie off at Grandad and Lizzie’s for a couple of hours while we enjoyed dinner for two at our favorite restaurant in town, Pelican’s. And we talked about Andie the majority of the time. Before we left, we became #17 on the waiting list for a wine locker at Pelican’s (one of Greg’s dreams is to own a wine locker at Pelican’s), and our waitress informed us only one became available over the last year. Just ONE. We made a deal we would only ask where we are on the list every year on our anniversary. We could be celebrating our 50th before we ever get one of those lockers.
When we got home, we put Andie to bed and popped in our wedding DVD. We’re going to make it a tradition to watch it every year and include the kid(s) too. I’m thankful we have our ceremony on video to watch again and again, and I’m already certain there’s nothing funnier than watching your wedding guests whip and nae nae years later.
Andie spoiled us on Sunday too and slept until 11:00 am again. After we finally got out of bed, we just moved to the living room and spent the day watching the Masters and the Rangers. I had to email our wedding photographers the images I want in our coffee table book. Yes, I only had a year to get it done. Yes, I procrastinated until the very last second. But it was fun looking through all of our pictures again on our anniversary. Here are some of my favorites…
Happy One Year Anniversary, Babe! The weekend was wonderful. Life with you, Andie, and Kliff is the life I’ve always dreamed of and prayed for. Thank you for being such an amazing husband and daddy. I love you!